Sex Education

I don't know how many times the issue of sex education has been brought up and been discussed in Malaysia. But then that is typical of how things are done here, isn't it? Discuss and discuss and discuss and end up with no conclusion?



I don't understand what's the big deal anyway.
Are you afraid that if have this subject, kids will be exposed to sex too early on?
If you are, then you must be living under a coconut shell.
All one needs to do is watch the TV, read the newspaper - the word sex is everywhere..if a parent doesn't explain it to their children, then their friends will.


Primary school children know what is sex.
What they don't know is STDs and unwanted pregnancies.



So many teenagers life has been spoiled by them getting 'knocked up'.
Yes, you can point a finger at them - it is their fault.
But who doens't make mistakes?
Why is it that they have to pay so dearly?
Even worse - sometimes, the baby is just abandoned, left to die..
All this could have been prevented, if only they knew how.

Yes, premarital sex is bad, is evil bla, bla, bla.
But so is lying. Are you telling me that you have never told a lie?

What I'm trying to say is this - people make choices.
They decide how to lead their life.
If they choose to take drugs, to drink alcohol, to have sex..there is nothing much you can do to stop them. But one should know the consequence of the choices that they make.

Telling someone "No, you shouldn't do that because I said no" is not a good way to do things.
I read a story once where the girl (Katy) wanted to play on the swing, but her Aunt told her not to. Katy was not told why she couldn't do it because the Aunt thinks that a child should listen to whatever an older person says. Katy decided to ignore what her Aunt said and played on the swing. Unfortunately, the swing had not been fixed properly yet and it snapped, and Katy feel and became paralyzed. If only her Aunt had told her why she shouldn't play with the swing, do you think Katy would have done it? Unlikely.

It is the same in reality. Why is it so hard for us to tell people why they should or shouldn't do something? If someone told you to not do something, wouldn't you want to know why?

I read this article earlier today, quite an interesting read, but I found this paragraph quite funny/illogical:
In Islam, there are guidelines why boys and girls need to be separated as they grow older – from separate blankets, beds, bedrooms and schools. I think it is in the best interest of the students that we should look into separate girls and boys secondary schools.
Obviously, the western concept of co-education and the freedom of modern lifestyles have contributed to the moral decay in some of our children.

Will this really solve the problem? So, how long should you separate boys and girls? Until they get married? And after that? Are they allowed to meet anyone else of a different gender?

How about outside of school? Do we segregate them as well? Tuitions, shopping complexes, parties?

Separating boys and girls is not going to give you any results, trust me.
I honestly don't think it would make any difference at all.
All one can do is give them the choices and let them decide.