It's All About Sex

In the past 3 days, 3 different articles caught my attention in The Star.

This is the first one : It's in the genes.
Basically what it was trying to say was that if a couple has almost similar genes - a so-called biological match, then this means they will have better sex, less cheating, longer-lasting love and perhaps even healthier children.

A day after this article was published, a letter was written to The Star, titled 'we reap what we sow in a marriage'.
It was written by a guy, and this is part of what he said:

Having thus married, the maintenance of harmony in the home is entirely in the hands of the newlyweds, though it must be emphasised here that the wife plays a pivotal role in the joint effort for wedded bliss.

If a busy working wife is so preoccupied with her daily working schedule to such an extent that she inadvertently or otherwise neglects to attend to her husband’s natural carnal needs, the seeds of discord are sown in the matrimonial home, opening the doors to the free inflow of serious consequences.

Most husbands in the above situation, understandably, have little or no ability to withstand any wife-imposed sexual starvation and they are thus forced to seek their pleasures in the outside world where a variety of sexual services are readily available around-the-clock.

I have to admit, when I read this, I was pissed off. Does he actually mean what he said? Did he actually think before writing this crap? Is he blaming infidelity on women, because the women are not 'attending to their husband's natural carnal needs'?

Today, a reply to his letter was published, Your wife is not like your mother.

Obviously, it was written by a lady. She was, naturally, against what he said. If you are interested in what she had to say, please just click on the link, it's just a short letter.

Anyway, here is what I have to say.

Sometimes, guys just don't understand. It is easy for you guys. Study, graduate then work. Once you think you are ready, get married, have children. Then, you just continue working and plan on making more babies. No one is going to ask you to do anything else.

For the fairer sex, they have to do everything that the guys do. But at the same time, they are expected to do housework and cook and take care of their children. If a child's upbringing is not good, it is the mother's who get the blame first.

I am talking from my own personal experience. A party in my house - the children eat first, naturally. Then, either the women or men eat. Once the women eat, they clean up after themselves. But the guys, they just leave everything, sometimes they don't even wash their plates! Then, the guys continue chit-chatting or watching TV and the women have to clean up.

Come on guys - how many times have you taken a plate from a lady and washed it for her? How many times has a lady washed your plate from you?

If a lady doesn't cook at home, that is an issue. Has anyone questioned a guy why he doens't cook at home even though he has a kitchen? In fact, if a guy says he cooks, everyone says that the wife is a lucky lady. Why is it never vice versa?

All I am trying to say is, more things are expected from women compared to men. Most men don't lift a finger around the house. The lady of the house has to come back from work and do everything herself. At the end of the day, is she expected to be not tired? Is she expected to 'fulfill her husband's carnal needs'?

Guys, if you want it, work for it. Help her with her housework. Let her get some rest. Then maybe you can get some action - if you are still up for it, of course.

P/s I am just talking about guys in general - there are a handful who are nice, who do help around.